A COMMITMENT TO CONNECTION: HOW ONE COUPLE IS SUPPORTING TWIN CITIES YOUTH AND BUILDING BELONGING
April 28, 2026, Nohad Awada
For Femi and Iyeokan, mentorship began as a shared value.
Shortly after getting married in 2023, the couple started having intentional conversations about how they wanted to show up in their community and in the lives of others. Both brought different experiences, but a shared belief stood out. They wanted to build meaningful, one-on-one relationships with young people and offer the kind of consistent support and care they knew could make a difference.
For Femi, mentorship had always been something he recognized. Growing up, he saw Big Brothers Big Sisters on TV and understood the power of mentorship early on. Over time, that awareness deepened through his personal values and community involvement.
For Iyeokan, the journey became personal in a different way. On her birthday in September 2024, Femi surprised her by taking her to learn more about Big Brothers Big Sisters Twin Cities. While they had already been looking for ways to serve beyond their role as youth ministers at church, this was her first introduction to the organization after recently moving to the Twin Cities from Chicago. The moment deeply resonated with her, and she said yes without hesitation, marking a clear step forward in their shared commitment to their community.
PREPARING TO BECOME BIGS
Before jumping in, Femi and Iyeokan took time to be thoughtful about what mentorship would look like in their lives.
As a couple balancing careers, businesses, and multiple responsibilities, they wanted to ensure they could show up fully and consistently. They talked through expectations, what kind of support they could offer, and how they could build relationships rooted in intention rather than obligation.
Initially, they planned to mentor together as a Big Couple with a Little Brother. But as they moved through the process, Iyeokan felt called to also build a one-on-one relationship of her own. That decision led her to be matched with a Little Sister who had been waiting for two years.
In January 2025, they completed their applications. By April 12, 2025, they met their Littles for the first time.
Femi was matched with Little Brother Kai.
Iyeokan was matched with Little Sister Ariyah.
From the very beginning, both relationships began to take shape in meaningful ways.
BUILDING CONNECTION THROUGH SHARED INTERESTS
For Femi and Kai, connection started with something simple: video games.
During one of their early outings, Kai fell asleep during a movie. Later, Femi noticed how much time Kai spent watching streamers and playing games. Instead of dismissing it, he leaned in. He saw an opportunity.
By stepping into Kai’s world, playing games together, exploring platforms like Minecraft and Roblox, and even talking about streaming, Femi created space for Kai to express himself in ways that felt natural and exciting.
“It’s not just a responsibility,” Femi shared. “It’s a partnership. You open your mind, see things from a different perspective, and grow together.”
Through those shared experiences, their relationship has become a space where Kai can build confidence, explore his interests, and find his voice.
CREATING SPACE TO BE SEEN AND HEARD
For Iyeokan and Ariyah, their connection has been rooted in presence, trust, and self-expression.
When they first met, Ariyah was quiet and reserved. Over time, through consistent time together and intentional conversations, that began to shift.
Whether attending church together, talking through everyday challenges, or simply spending time connecting, Iyeokan created a space where Ariyah felt safe to open up.
One moment that stood out came from a conversation about forgiveness and relationships. Through guidance and shared experiences, Ariyah began to process her own feelings and relationships in new ways, and that growth has shown up in powerful ways.
Ariyah, who once struggled with shyness and stage fright, is now singing, rapping, and expressing herself in front of others. Her confidence continues to grow, and her family has seen the difference.
“She’s blossoming,” Iyeokan shared. “Seeing her step into who she is has been incredible.”
THE IMPACT GOES BOTH WAYS
While mentorship is centered on young people, both Femi and Iyeokan are quick to share that the experience has also shaped them.
Balancing careers, businesses, and daily responsibilities can be demanding. But showing up for their Littles has become a meaningful reset.
“It’s an escape in the best way,” Femi said. “For a few hours, nothing else matters. You’re just present.”
For Iyeokan, mentorship has brought a renewed sense of joy and reflection.
Experiencing the world through Ariyah’s perspective has helped her slow down, reconnect with her own sense of curiosity, and approach life with more intention. It has also strengthened her commitment to leading by example.
“Don’t just do what I say,” she shared. “See my values in action.”
Through that lens, mentorship becomes more than time spent together. It becomes a shared journey of growth, accountability, and connection.
THE POWER OF MENTORSHIP IN COMMUNITY
Mentorship also plays a critical role in amplifying voices, experiences, and perspectives across communities.
For Femi, building a relationship with a Little who shares similar experiences has created deeper understanding and connection. It allows space for Kai to feel seen, understood, and supported in navigating the world around him.
For Iyeokan, mentoring Ariyah has expanded her own perspective. As Ariyah navigates her identity and experiences, their relationship creates opportunities to learn from one another and find common ground.
Together, these relationships reflect what mentorship can be. A space where young people are supported in being fully themselves, while also building bridges of understanding and connection.
A FUTURE BUILT ON MENTORSHIP
The impact of mentorship extends far beyond individual moments.
Research from the A Future Built on Mentorship report shows that 91% of Littles reported an increased sense of belonging with family and peers, highlighting the power of consistent, supportive relationships.
But beyond the data, it’s the everyday moments that tell the full story.
The laughter.
The conversations.
The growth.
For Femi and Iyeokan, mentorship is about showing up, staying consistent, and building something that lasts.
“Being a Big is a way to make a difference and build something meaningful,” Iyeokan shared. “You give, and you receive.”
Femi put it simply: “Every interaction matters. The ripple effect is real.”
START YOUR MENTORSHIP JOURNEY
Mentorship starts with a single step.
If you’ve ever thought about becoming a Big, this is your moment. Showing up for a young person creates connection, builds confidence, and opens the door to new possibilities for both of you.
Apply to become a mentor today and help build a future grounded in connection, growth, and opportunity.
